Return to school triggers separation anxiety for some pupils

As children across the UK return to school, education specialists are highlighting the challenges of separation anxiety, a common issue that new back-to-school routines can trigger.

Separation anxiety, a specific type of anxiety disorder, affects nearly 1 in 20 pupils, with about one-third of these cases persisting into adulthood if left untreated. Separation anxiety can be particularly intense during school transitions. It can manifest in various ways, from reluctance to attend school to more subtle signs of distress in older students.

To help parents and carers navigate this challenging time, experts at Explore Learning, a leading tuition provider, are addressing six commonly asked questions around separation anxiety:

1. What are the symptoms of school separation anxiety to look out for?

Parents should be aware of signs such as refusal to go to school, increased clinginess, and physical complaints such as stomach aches or headaches. Children might also express fears about harm coming to a loved one, reluctance to sleep alone, or fear of being left alone for short periods. Recognising these symptoms as early as possible allows parents to provide support before anxiety escalates.

2. What triggers school separation anxiety?

Common triggers include stress from changes in routine, new school environments, or academic pressures. Parental stress can also be a factor, as children often pick up on and internalise their parents’ anxiety. Understanding these triggers can help parents create a calmer environment and proactively address potential issues.

3. What age does school separation anxiety start?

Separation anxiety can begin as early as six months old and typically lasts until around age 3. Separation anxiety can persist in older children, especially during significant transitions like starting a new school year, moving from primary to secondary school, or transferring to an entirely new school. Parents should be prepared to offer support at various stages of their child’s educational journey, adapting their approach as needed.

4. How can parents keep to a routine in September to decrease separation anxiety?

We recommend creating a consistent morning routine, planning a special goodbye ritual, ensuring regular sleep patterns, and gradually reintroducing school-related activities. Establishing and maintaining these routines can give children a sense of predictability and security, helping ease anxiety as they transition back to school.

5. What strategies can parents use to combat back-to-school anxiety?

There are several strategies parents can use to combat back-to-school anxiety:

• Identify a ‘safe adult’: Work with teachers to designate a trusted staff member as a ‘safe adult’ for your child. This person can provide comfort and support during moments of anxiety at school.
• Send comforting notes or mementoes: Pack small, meaningful items in your child’s bag, such as a family photo or a short, encouraging note. These can provide reassurance throughout the day.
• Open communication: Encourage your child to talk openly about their worries. Listen attentively and acknowledge their feelings without dismissing them. This validation can help your child feel understood and supported.

Combining these strategies can create a supportive framework for children, helping them feel more confident and secure when returning to school.

6. How can children of all ages develop self-soothing strategies to manage anxiety at school?

We recommend helping children create a ‘self-soothe box’ filled with comforting items they can take to school, such as a small teddy, family photo, or positive notes from parents. Encourage older students to use calming apps during breaks, practice mindfulness between classes, or keep a stress ball or fidget toy in their pocket. Teaching simple relaxation techniques like deep breathing can benefit children of all ages. Additionally, journalling or engaging in brief physical activities like stretching or walking can help manage anxious feelings. By equipping children with these self-soothing tools, parents can empower them to handle their anxiety more effectively at school, regardless of their age.

By equipping children with these self-soothing tools, parents can empower them to manage their anxiety more effectively when at school.

Amandeep Sanghera, Head of Maths and English at Explore Learning, concludes: “While back-to-school separation anxiety is a common challenge, it’s also highly manageable. By implementing these targeted strategies and maintaining open communication, parents can help transform their child’s separation worries into confidence for the new school year. At Explore Learning, we’re committed to supporting parents and children in overcoming separation anxiety, ensuring they feel secure and ready to embrace their educational journey.”